Thank you for your comment Cassy, I understand where you’re coming from, but you also sound like a decent person. My rant is about people who attack others for not asking or for using the wrong pronoun. I hate when people call me Ma’m but I also understand that that’s how they see me — a middle-aged woman. I don’t expect others to care, I don’t expect a 5-second interaction where I’m picking up my order that the person will give a damn about me, my identity, or my pronouns and why should they? They’re just doing their job and that job isn’t to psycho-analyse me, their job is to hand me my order saying “here, you go Ma’m” — I cringe inside, feel old, get in my car and (in 10 seconds or less) forget about the encounter.